Tonight was very emotional for Derek and I. I was just the crying baby in the background. I think all of this came about because Yes, Derek is going to be a Daddy! In no way was I coercive, maybe a couple of years ago I was but he wasn't ready. Yesterday Derek was "spring cleaning" and decided that he would try his biological father's # Joe Gwartney that his mom had printed out a long while ago. Keep in my mind Derek did not have contact with his father growing up except maybe 1x when he was 12y/o, and ever since he can remember Alan Kreitinger is the man we call DAD! It ended up being disconnected and we got on whitepages online and found his biological/paternal grandmother Laverne Gwartney. Derek made the phone call, and heard the answering machine and hung up. His exact words were "I think I just heard some of my family members." He was so excited, but at that point was not ready to leave a message. Today he came to pick me up from work for lunch, we went to whole foods....mmmmm. By the way the doc gave me the goooooood stuff....ZOFRAN! I stuffed my face with brisket, tofu, asparagus, brocoli, cheesy pasta, oh it was so good. Well during our lunch Derek told me he left his grandmother a message, I was so happy. I got home from work it was raining pretty hard, sat on the couch and ate some PIZZA derek made us from whole foods! and then all of a sudden the sun came out, it was truly magical.....and then derek's phone was ringing and it was a 940 number which I knew it was his grandma. So they talked for 40min and Derek had a smile on his face the whole time. She was the sweetest lady, Derek says "She was a nice independent grandma who really wanted to get to know me." Then came the part to call his father. He got the number from his grandma and was dialing away. Derek called and right away Joe picked up, they talked for 27minutes. And again Derek says "a sound of country, excitement, and a willingness to talk and get to know me." Derek was truly on cloud nine today, derek says "This is what i have been waiting for, for a while." We will see where the road leads this new found relationship. I was telling Derek that it is like one of those shows that the father and child reunite after 30years, I know ya'll remember those shows. Anyways, we plan on coming to Texas the last week in June and Derek has already made tenative plans with Joe & Laverne. Derek also found out he is the only child (like me too) and has 2 aunts and 2 uncles. We found out birthdays, addresses, professions, and it was a good POSITIVE communication for Derek tonight. If i could have taken a picture i would have because he was so ecstatic and overcome with joy and excitement. It does not matter what happened in the past, it only matters that we will make our future.
Goodnight & Peace to all
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