take everything with a grain of salt.......

So yesterday was our 28wk OB appt and honestly i was to upset to write about anything. After the mis-diagnosis of the single umbilical artery im taking ANYTHING a medical professional says with a grain of salt. today after talking with multiple docs, nurses at the hospital I feel better about our outcome. Basically yesterday we went first to our u/s and afterwards we were asked to have a seat in the next room and the doctor would be in to see us shortly. Right away i knew something was wrong because he had just mentioned that the left ventricle of the brain was close to being mild abnormal, technical term is ventriculomegaly.
we also have never had the high risk doctor talk to us after an u/s in a separate room. Anyways, Dreycin's is borderline at this point and will have to be monitored. Normal is 1.0 and you can see from the pictures below his lateral ventricle measurements were very close to being 1.0. Yesterday I was devestated, because the doctor was like I cant hide this information from you and you need to know....but all i could do was cry. Derek says we are just lucky? I mean not only do i have to deal with the arthritis/lupus stuff, but now i have to worry about my baby not being healthy. After the u/s appt we went over to my OB appt and along with this dreaded news we also found out that my lupus blood work for the Anti Ro/SSA antibody was elevated from the blood draw at the last appt and the doc ordered it again since it was high. This probably means that Dreycin and I will go in for a fetal echo in a couple of weeks, and his heart rate will be closely watched to make sure it doesnt fluctuate up or down from 140's which is his average. Even then if it does they will only give me medicine to control his heartrate. Everything else was good no protein or sugar in my urine, 2lb weight gain which puts me at a 13lb weight gain so far(i started at 180 now im 193!). found out that the pain ive been having in my groin is just stretching of my uterus, not braxton hicks...which i have experienced a few in the past week or so. the further along i get sometimes i wonder if these high risk doctors are just looking for something to be wrong? ive come to the conclusion i no longer like u/s appts. but the pics were beautiful. if i didnt know better i would say the u/s tech knew we were going to get bad news, so she switched the machine from 2d to 3d and we got to see his chubby cheeks. i think he has derek's nose and eyes, and my plump lips? He is 2.99lbs and beautiful, hard to believe that anything could be wrong. His measurements this time says the due date is halloween!? but the u/s tech says they are going to stick with my original due date of november 9th! i still think im a week ahead of what they say. we'll see...